If sex itself were the cause of the problem, then Hugh Hefner's multi-million dollar empire could be judged as a prime factor in the moral decline of our time and judged accordingly. As it is, the playboy world has merely capitalized on a pleasure-first philosophy rampant in our time and has contributed (albeit greatly) to a weakening of the status of married love and the marriage relationship. 

The positive side of the Lord Jesus Christ's second great example of Christian conduct is marriage—Christian marriage—and the perversion that is opposed to it is lust. Jesus said, "Ye have heard that it was said by them of old, Thou shalt not commit adultery; but I say unto you that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matt. 5:27-28). According to Jesus, lust is the equivalent of adultery, just as anger is the equivalent of murder. The standard for His followers is to be, quite simply, chastity before marriage and fidelity afterwards. In this, Jesus reinforces the whole of the biblical teaching.

The fourth step in the cure of anger must be added to these three obvious steps on the basis of all that Christ is saying. We must ask God to change our heart because only God is able to do it. 

The second step for those who wish to overcome their anger is to correct the injustice, for there is always injustice on both sides in any normal dispute. Thus, Jesus said, "Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath aught against thee: leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift" (Matt. 5:23-24). 

Do we commit murder? Oh, yes—by this definition. We lose our temper. We harbor grudges. We gossip. We kill by neglect, spite, and jealousy. In addition, there is no doubt that we would learn that we actually do worse things if only we could see our hearts as God is able to see them. It is no accident that even in our own speech, such things sometimes are termed “character assassination” or that we speak of destroying a person by words. This is literally true, and we do it. Only Jesus says that we are not to be that way as Christians.